Your Vagina Isn’t Broken—She’s Just Thirsty

“We talk about skincare, self-care, and haircare. So why is vaginal care still a whisper behind closed doors?”

kirsten thys van den Audenaerde, Casa de Papel, 2020

Let’s get something straight right from the start:

You are not broken.

You’re not “less of a woman.”

And your vagina? She’s just thirsty—and no, coconut oil isn’t always the answer.

Vaginal dryness isn’t a dirty secret. It’s a real, hormonal, lived experience that affects millions of women—especially those entering perimenopause, menopause, postpartum, or navigating stress and medication side effects.

This is A Woman, and we’re not here to whisper. We’re here to tell the truth—and reclaim pleasure, comfort, and power while we’re at it.

Let’s Kill the Silence

We live in a world obsessed with youth, yet allergic to the truth of aging. We can post about orgasms but still avoid saying “vaginal atrophy” out loud.  So what happens when the fire’s still burning, but the match just won’t strike?  You don’t need to suffer in silence.  You need information.

And maybe… a little hydration.

Why the Sahara Situation?

Dryness is not a personal failure. It’s biology in motion.

Common causes include:

• Hormonal shifts (menopause, perimenopause, postpartum)

• Breastfeeding

• Antidepressants, antihistamines, birth control

• Stress and fatigue

• Cancer treatments

And yes, even women in their 30s experience it. There is no single timeline for the changing body—we are each our own revolution.

Solutions, Not Secrets: The Bold Woman’s Toolkit

Your pleasure deserves premium care—not stigma.

Here’s a curated list of body-safe, effective products that can help quench your body’s thirst:

Everyday Relief: Vaginal Moisturizers

For long-term comfort and tissue repair.

• Good Clean Love Restore – pH-balanced, organic, long-lasting.

• Revaree by Bonafide – Doctor-recommended for menopausal dryness.

• Replens Long-Lasting Moisturizer – Trusted and accessible.

“This isn’t about ‘fixing’ your body. It’s about listening to her.”

For the Moment: Lubricants

Lube isn't just for "spicing things up." It's for making things possible—and pleasurable.

Water-Based (Everyday Use & Toys)

• Sliquid H2O – Glycerin-free, body-safe.

• Yes WB – Certified organic, non-sticky.

Silicone-Based (Ultra-Long Lasting)

• Uberlube – Elegant glass bottle, ultra-smooth.

• Pjur Original – German-engineered for longevity.

Oil-Based (Rich & Sensual)

• Aloe Cadabra – Aloe-based, edible.

• Coconu Oil-Based Lubricant – USDA-certified organic.

Note: Oil-based lubes degrade latex—use with non-latex condoms only.

Medical Help: Prescription Options

If dryness is chronic and disruptive, talk to your provider about:

• Estrace

• Premarin Cream

• DHEA suppositories (like Intrarosa)

This Is About More Than Comfort—It’s About Power

Dryness doesn’t mean desire is gone. It means your body wants to be supported in a new way. You are still sensual. Still powerful. Still whole.

“Lubrication is not an apology—it’s a luxury your body deserves.”

Let’s Normalize the Moisture Talk

Display your lube like you display your perfume—on purpose.  Talk about moisturizers like you talk about your skin routine. Swap stories with your sisters.  Say the words. 

This is not about shame. It’s about reclamation.

Further Reading

Healing Painful Sex: A Woman's Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain

When Sex Hurts and Nobody’s Talking

Sources

Cleveland Clinic: The Straight Facts
Breaks down symptoms, causes, and when to see a doctor — all in an easy-to-understand way.
Cleveland Clinic - Vaginal Dryness

ACOG: Expert Advice from OB-GYNs
Honest answers from the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists — including treatment options and lifestyle tips.
ACOG - Experiencing Vaginal Dryness? Here’s What You Need to Know

WebMD: Treatments & Real Talk
Covers causes and moisturizers, plus what actually works and what to expect.
WebMD - Vaginal Dryness: Causes & Treatments